While riding the train home from work today, I got to witness another case of a guy who had enough game to start a conversation with a hot, sexy woman, but not enough to close the deal and get her email or phone number.

 

I have to start out by saying that this woman was Runway Model stunning, meaning tall, slender, and exotic looking. So I have to give kudos to any guy that had the nerve to approach her and start a conversation in the first place.

The guy himself was tall and hunky, and his looks alone probably convinced many women to at least give him a listen. Unfortunately, if the approach he used with this woman was his usual pick-up technique, it’s doubtful any of his past encounters with women ever got much past the initial talking stage before he earned his walking papers.

 

Rather than engaging her in some fun, lively, and challenging conversation, the guy simply asked this exciting and fascinating looking woman a series mundane interview-type questions which led nowhere.

 

She looked so interested in him when they first got on the train, I actually thought they were a couple. But six agonizing stops later, after having endured his almost painful question and answer session, she hurriedly exited the train. Her expression had changed from curiously aroused to total relief that the encounter had finally ended. The guy’s expression, in turn, had gone from hopeful enthusiasm to a resigned disappointment and dejection.  

 

So where did this guy go wrong?

 

Basically, he went wrong the same way most guys go wrong, which was to engage this woman in some non-threatening boring banter, hoping along the way to show her what a “Nice Guy” he was as he promoted himself as being worthy of dating her. 

 

Just talking to a hot woman may seem like a big step for a lot of guys, but if you don’t know what it takes to build attraction in a woman and get her interested in you, then you are destined to endure a series of frustrating experiences that never allow you to advance past this initial conversation. 

 

Sure women want a guy who is nice to them, but just being nice is not the way to a woman’s heart. Building attraction is about creating feelings in a woman that even she herself can’t understand or control. Feelings of sensual and sexual desire for you that overcomes all reason, logic and emotional resistance.

 

When you start talking to a woman, you not only want to create a fun experience for her, you also want to create some sexual tension. One way to do this is by teasing her, or giving her a hard time about something she is saying or doing. When you do this, it shows her that you are not intimidated by her or seeking her approval like all the other guys that approach her.

 

My opening approach to a woman like this would be to acknowledge her looks, but do it in a way where she’s not sure whether to take it as a compliment or not. In this particular case, I would have said something like, “I’m looking at you and trying to figure out what type of job you have. I’ve narrowed it down to either an International Supermodel or the perfume girl at Macy’s.”

 

No matter what she said, I would play up the Macy’s line by saying that I’m sure I’ve seen her hawking perfume there, or maybe it was Sears. I would stay at this, smiling and teasing her for a bit, maybe even asking her something like, ”Being a perfume expert, what perfume should I buy for my “cougar” 70-yr old Grandmother who likes men in their 20’s.”

 

I would stay away from anything serious or interview-like. Just have some fun, and create some fun for her too. When I get her laughing awhile, I would then ask for her email so she can pass on some further perfume advice for my grandmother. And of course, I would ask her to include her phone number as well.

 

The best part is, the hotter the woman, the better this kind of approach works. Most beautiful women are used to guys who are so intimidated by their looks and beauty that they usually come in with a very weak, approval-seeking approach. By contrast, your self-confident, challenging approach will set you apart and put you on a higher status level in a beautiful woman’s mind. 

 

That’s all there is to it. So get out there, have some fun, and start talking to some of the hottest women in town without fear, anxiety or the need to ever use a phoney pick-up line again.

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