Preparing to go on a first date with someone you REALLY like is one of the most those supercharged moments you will ever experience in your life.

  

You’re trapped in the middle of an epic emotional battle between uncontrollable exuberance and stomach wrenching anxiety. You can’t stop smiling while at the same time feeling almost on the verge of throwing up.

  

Even if you’ve been on a lot of first dates in the past, when you find someone who totally blows you away all that experience seems to go right out the window. It’s like entering into some magical world that you didn’t know existed. The goal of this article is take some of the mystique out of this situation by answering your first date questions one-by-one.

  

What to Wear on a First Date–

  

I’ll make this simple: clean, neat, casual, and comfortable. Don’t dress down and don’t dress up. You don’t need to dress to impress. Just don’t let your attire be a deal-breaker.

  

Where to Go on a First Date–

Let’s make one thing clear. The first date is not about the place. The first date is about the chemistry. If you have good chemistry, it won’t matter where you go. If you don’t have good chemistry, it won’t matter where you go. Your main goal is to pick the right setting where you can talk and determine whether you connect or not.

  

It’s best to schedule a casual date during a lazy Saturday afternoon, which is much less emotionally charged than going out on a Friday or Saturday evening when expectations are higher.

  

Meet over coffee, take a short city hike, walk through the park, or just grab a light lunch. Again, keep it simple.

  

First Date Conversations–

  

A big question I get from guys is what to talk about on a first date. Believe me; most women will have plenty of first date questions to keep the conversation going for a long time.

  

Sometimes it may seem like you’re on a job interview as questions about everything from your career goals to relationship history could be thrown at you.

  

My advice is to not feel compelled to answer a question if you think she’s trying to qualify you or disqualify you based on your response.

  

Your objective on the first date is too keep things light and fun for both you and her.

  

You don’t want to be too talky or dominate the conversation. You especially don’t want get all serious and introspective about your life or life in general.

  

If you turn the first date into a chance to rag on old girlfriends or go on a political rant, then you can probably kiss any chance for a second date good-bye.

  

And if you catch her getting too serious, make sure to tease her about getting too deep, and get things back to lighter topics.

  

First Date Kiss–

  

Ok, it’s the end of the first date and you’re saying good-bye. Kiss or no kiss?

  

Even if the date went fantastic and your head is floating on cloud nine, you still need to keep your feet on the ground. It’s always best, especially this early on, to underplay your emotions.

  

Instead of the full mouth kiss, just go with the hand shake, or at most the kiss on the cheek. You will find that it usually works better for you to go too slow than to go too fast.

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